Thursday, May 20, 2010

Stop the Drama Already

by Andrew Cromwell
May 20, 2010

Have you noticed how much drama people create in their lives? I am convinced that some people find joy in the creation of chaos. They have lived in a state of continual drama and distress for so long that they do not know how to live without it. These people will tell you that they are tired of the drama and that they don't want it anymore. But when it comes down to it, they just keep doing the same old things that create the same old mess.

They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If that is the case, then most of us are crazy! We keep doing the same thing—repeating the same unhealthy relationship patterns, spending habits and eating/dieting routines—and we think that somehow tomorrow is going to be different from today. And often, we walk around claiming we are the ones that have been victimized! Hello somebody!

We point the finger at other people ("they make me so mad and I say and do things that I shouldn't") and circumstances ("I had no choice, I was backed into a corner") but rarely do we stop long enough to realize that our life is perfectly created (by us) to get the results that we are experiencing.

It is possible to live life without all the drama. That doesn't mean that your life will never have drama, because you cannot control the people around you. Frankly, if we stopped trying to control the people around us we might experience a lot less drama in our lives. So while we cannot control what others do, we can control what we do and how we react.

If someone makes you so mad that you cannot control yourself, avoid them instead of seeking them out! If you always lose control when you go shopping, don't go shopping! If you can't seem to get off the roller coaster ride of emotional responses, then it is time to change something!

I am not suggesting that this is easy. Nor am I suggesting that just making a decision is enough to change everything in your life. But it all starts with a decision. A decision to get into an anger management class. A decision to stop reacting and begin to start acting. A decision to move in a healthy direction for your future.

Scripture says in James 3:18, Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness. If you are experiencing too much drama in your life, you may need to start creating peace rather than creating drama.

The pastors of Kings County can help you learn how to live your life without the drama. Why don't you do something different, get in church this weekend and start sowing some seeds of peace?